‘Just because you can’t see our children, they are still very real and deserve to be remembered along with the children who were here before or come after them.’
Lauren – Oliver’s Mum
Just as with many other parents, we wanted our first-born Oliver to grow up to be whoever he wanted to be. At 37 weeks gestation these hopes would never come to fruition.
Oliver Christopher was stillborn.
Two years on, he is still very much part of our life. We now have our second son, Liam, who has just turned one. Oliver will always be our firstborn and we will ensure his brother knows all about him.
We had our first Christmas with Liam. We had a special bear for Liam, as a special present from Oliver and included this in our family Christmas photos. Oliver was also included in our Christmas celebrations with a remembrance candle. We lit the candle and placed it on our festive table next to my dad’s remembrance candle. We hope that the two of them were celebrating together.
Oliver will forever remain part of our family. We have a special angel statue in our front garden remembering Oliver. We have another for twins who we miscarried at an early gestation, before I fell pregnant with Oliver. It is beautiful to walk past these special items on an almost daily basis. We have planted a flower in a memorial garden on the Central Coast to help us to remember our angels, along with all the other angels.
Some days I feel ok. Other days the grief creeps up on me. After two years, some days are still overwhelmingly hard. I have learnt that you need to feel what you need to, to get through those days.
